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Xenia Barnes is a dynamic motivational speaker, author, thought leader, and trauma coach. As a dedicated generational breakthrough speaker with a passion for transforming lives and breaking generational cycles of behavior, she uses her experience as an advanced human behavioral analysis and community activist to transform the lives and careers of survivors of domestic abuse, violence, and long-term illnesses. For the past 20 years, she has successfully trained, coached, and developed the mindsets of women on their journey to becoming a better version of themselves. Now, as a Ph.D. candidate, her “Season of M.E. (Mental & Emotional Growth) talk helps guide her audience on their journey to break generational cycles of trauma as they aim to become better versions of themselves.

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Generational Breakthrough

Identifying trauma triggers and microaggressions and aiming to dismantle violent mental spaces in your personal and professional life, This Talks engages and encourages individuals to find their voice and speak out to make healthy changes in their lives to improve their well-being and productivity in life.

Loving Yourself Through the Trauma

Trauma comes in all shapes, sizes, and forms. This talk aims to remove the shame from trauma experiences and approach healing from a holistic approach, giving power back to the individual as they engage with bite-size strategies and fall in love with themselves through their healing process.

The Power of Self-Inventory

Understanding the power of self-awareness and emotional intelligence is key to unlocking one’s full potential. This talk helps individuals identify and redefine their “why” and life’s purpose through fostering confidence, diverse and transformative self-development, and trauma-informed effective communication.

The Recondition: A Guide to Loving Yourself Through the Trauma

In this book, you’ll learn quick and accessible techniques to recondition your mind so that you can experience healthier thoughts and more positive emotions; a host of strategies to help navigate your emotions; practical exercises and thought-provoking reflection questions to push and elevate your thinking for the better; how to rewrite your story to take control over the narrative of your experience with trauma and reclaim your life; and much more.
The Recondition was written as a road map to guide your journey to self-love. Outcomes are immediate, doable, and low cost, with a vast instant impact on your mental and emotional well-being.
So, if you are ready to reclaim your space, emotions, and overall well-being and start loving yourself today, this book is for you!

Grieving to Heal “The Shadow Boarding Experience”

This autobiography/self-help book will discuss the depths of despair and the different stages of grief. Through this book, Xenia Barnes aims to reflect on her traumatic experiences and share them with others as a healthy way to release pent-up emotions. Every individual experiences grief in various ways. The chapters will not only shed light on the healthiness of grieving but also provide tried and tested guidelines for breakthrough recovery.
The author believes that while we may not always have control over the bad things that happen to us, we always have a choice of what we choose to do with those experiences. The learning is endless. Simultaneously, she allows herself to experience every emotion and navigates her way out of the darkness, into the light. The main message behind this book is that there’s no time limit to grief. Some days you’ll feel like you’re making progress, while others will feel like you’re back to square one. There will be challenges, and not everyone will understand your grieving process. Nevertheless, what’s essential is that you operate at your own pace, set boundaries, and rise above the ashes.

Triumphs in the Trenches

This anthology shines a light on the realities many Black professionals face in the workplace. Despite the challenges, these stories illustrate how to rise above. break cycles of workplace trauma, empower yourself, find fulfillment in your careers, and lift as you climb.
Uncover Systemic Workplace PRACTICES.
Understand covert and overt discrimination facing Black employees through first-hand accounts.
GET Practical Strategies to Challenge the Status Quo.
Read how these professionals took on systemic oppression using hard-won wisdom.
LEARN Pathways to Empowerment Through Mindset Shifts.
Discover the importance of mental resilience and get tips you can implement immediately.

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